Sunday, July 12, 2020
Unexpected Roger Miller
Monday, September 9, 2019
A New Day
What I do today is very important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it.
When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever,
leaving something in its place I have traded for it.
I want it to be a gain, not a loss; good not evil;
success, not failure,
in order that I shall not regret
the price I paid for it.”
– Dr W Heartsill Wilson
written in 1954
original title "A Salesman's Prayer"
Saturday, March 2, 2019
Best dessert
<They glance at the menu and exchange an extended significant glance that almost looks like an exchange of Ha (breath) and also almost looks like a head-to-head>
me: Ummm... that looks like a "you know what I'm going to say but I'm waiting for you to say it to see if you really know what I want."
niece: What I want and what he will want are not the same thing.
me: You can each get something...
bf: We can get yours and share it.
me: So... which is it?
niece: The creme brulée.
me: Of COURSE the creme brulée!
<discussion continues and I make Big Frog tell his story about Mexican food>
me, in passing: I wonder what creme brulée is in Spanish. ¿Como se dice creme brulée?
<niece types>
me: Are you Yelping already? <knows that usually would be me typing>
niece: I'm Google translating. <pause> Flan. Of course it's flan.
This weekend I discovered the joy of having an adult niece, from drinking (responsibly!) together, to my positively pressuring her to get Fairy Hair (she did, in a very professional matches-and-shines, flashes-in-the-sunlight color, whereas I put Easter-egg-colored sparkles in mine), to late-night tabletop gaming. And Biltmore. You've met me; you don't even have to ask. Better believe we went to Biltmore. Getting to walk around downtown Kernersville this morning on a sunny, 60F+ day? Love it. C'mon... move South!
Monday, December 24, 2018
Joy to the world!
(I walked in on Big Frog watching Monday Night Football on the last night of Fantasy Football playoffs.)
me: Are we winning?
Big Frog: We just need J. Cook to get 6 points.
me: Is that Jay or Jason?
Big Frog: I don't know. His first initial is J.
ne: What do you think it stands for?
Big Frog: Jeremiah.
me: Jeremiah? Was he a bullfrog?
Big Frog: No.
me: How can you tell?
Big Frog: I understood everything he said.
Joy to the world, y'all!
Saturday, September 1, 2018
Ratscrew
So we taught the nieces and their friends to play Egyptian Ratscrew. With doubles and sandwiches; no rings. Like that enormous gold class ring, Unkie...
friend: Stop murdering me!
Unkie: That's good life advice, actually.
Thursday, August 30, 2018
That traditional Christmas tune
Big Frog is a consistent supporter of Heart of the Triad Music, because he's a constant supporter of me. He's a keeper. He doesn't sing with HTCS, though. That's ok; we do need an audience as well. I occasionally poke him about joining, and sometimes others say he's a good singer and does he sing with me?
And then sometimes...
me <listing out the high points of this season's repertoire>: We're doing 3 pieces from Handel's Messiah! And the Christmas song from Mame! And Ding Dong!
Big Frog: The witch is dead?
me: Yes. That traditional Christmas tune.
Come sing with us! We rehearse Thursdays at Main Street UMC. And our winter concert is Friday December 14 at 7pm and Saturday December 15 at 3pm, at Sedge Garden UMC, Kernersville.
Tuesday, August 21, 2018
That Book Lady
<Mom freezes>
4yo: She smells nice.
Mom: <audible sigh of relief. Clearly this is the kind of kid who could say literally anything and you just have to roll with it.>
me: Thank you.
Sunday, July 22, 2018
Like Quincy!
What did you do today? (You mean while we waited in the ER?) We made AirBnB res for our Hawaii trip! To stay on a sailboat!! Like Quincy!!! “I know your husband was just murdered, but… are you doing anything after?”
Friday, April 13, 2018
Grasshopper
[Exit music on the Fort Macon video]
Grasshopper sittin on a sweet p'tato vine
Grasshopper sittin on a sweet p'tato vine
Grasshopper sittin on a sweet p'tato vine
'long comes a chicken and says, "He's mine."
Big Frog: So... not a happy song, then.
me: Unless you're the chicken.
Big Frog: Yes, unless you're the chicken.
Saturday, October 21, 2017
Dead giveaway
QOTD: Big Frog: You know how people can tell we're Americans?
me, silently thinking: sooooo many ways!
Big Frog: We switch our knife and fork as we eat.
Saturday, September 9, 2017
TWG (Token White Guy)
In wedding setup assignments, Big Frog graciously volunteered for something and wasn't heard.
me: No one notices the white guy.
After a query went up for someone to draft into the role, Big Frog made direct contact. And got the desired responsibility of carrying 20 pies. I have no doubt he can do that with aplomb, but if only 19 pies show up... or 18... 17... that means Big Frog is having a free for all with the other pies and a really big fork somewhere elsewhere.
Friday, September 1, 2017
Left?
So our epic roadtrip opened with a left turn out of our own neighborhood. I said, "Wait, where are we going?" and the answer I got was, "Wait, where *are* we going?"
North. The answer is north.
(And in a Jeep, for this leg of the journey. Later there will be planes. Also trains. But probably no Steve Martin.)
Sunday, July 23, 2017
At the New Lowe's
Anywhere in the US you go to Lowe's and get hardware. Or lumber. Or power tools. Or if you're me, paint.
But in NC there's a grocery store chain, I believe locally owned, also called Lowe's. Lowe's Foods.
And today I looked up from the seating section by prepared foods and realized something.
Me: Is that a bear with antlers?
Big Frog: Of course. It's not a bear den and it's not a deer den. It's a beer den.
Friday, June 30, 2017
Grapefruit?
"I was hoping the new sign would say "GRAPEFRUIT", but it says "Loose Gravel"."
Big Frog & I have a road sign dug into our front yard now. We're not sure why it's there or even quite when it arrived. And there's been inexplicable loose gravel on the road for months now, to the point where it's mostly been scattered.
Saturday, May 27, 2017
Big Carrot
Big Frog's colleague, with whom Big Frog travels to Mexico on occasion, knows that when we go away for the weekend we leave the girls alone (in their 120 sq ft runaround space) with enough boxes of hay (multiple Kleenex boxes full) and a BIG CARROT. Nilla & Mocha know that when a big carrot comes out they get some alone time without us around. We like to think they don't like that we’re leaving them alone, but we know they like BIG CARROT.
The most recent time Big Frog traveled, his colleague inquired after the girls and their big carrot, which unfortunately they didn't get because I was staying home. But the colleague's new idea is a full-length film called BIG CARROT, which is about ANYthing and nothing, a drama, a romance, a comedy, but the scene cuts are carrots (like how Law & Order has that bum-bum & suddenly you're somewhere else and some when else) and the final scene is the girls, working away on their bonus nibbles. It's the next Love Actually. Or Henson's Timepiece. I know one thing for sure, the girls would love every minute of filming and all the veggies they can get their teeth on.
Monday, May 22, 2017
Village Social
Art of Biltmore House Tour
My photos from the day are here.
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Leslie Klingner, guide
(Apologies -- these are rather scribble-scrabble notes, but I was writing as fast as I could! And I’m more than willing to share what info I jotted down, just recognize their limitations.)
Most places it's structural; at Biltmore it's just ornamental.
Guastavino is buried in St Lawrence Basilica, at Haywood and Cherry, by Civic Center
Anne Bastion (sp?) - Biltmore upholstery conservator
Put in structural support so could use the chairs for sitting on if the family chose to.
Hand-sewn "underwear layer" made of linen -- can sew fabric to it, not stapled
Reproduction tacks on the side use the same holes.
Silk fabric
25 years breakdown in the light
Birds get into the house and like it
Cost per yard "I can't tell you".
Factory still had swatches of original in their factories so they could match it! so setting up the looms was less than if from scratch. Still astronomical $. And the day the 64th chair was finished ans returned to the Banquet Hall, a bird came in and liked it...!
Different size chairs
Arm chairs probably for show, not for sitting, so displayed usually to the side
In a banquet, might use arm chairs as end seats but difficult if along the sides of the table
GWV and Edith, rather than the image of nobility sitting at the far ends of the table, sat at the center, opposite each other.
Most titled (or important) guests sat with them
Edith's dinner book lists who came to dinner
Man-woman-man-woman seating
Cultural norms to talk to the person on one side of you and when indicated (by lady of the house) would switch to next discussion partner -- not like today's talk to whomever, carry on multiple convos. -- hosts' responsibility to set the seating to match interests with talking partners
Cathy Bernhart (sp?) - blooms - 31 years at Biltmore, retiring this year
Tinkerbell hidden in the tablescape (in the conservatory) (my pic here)
Long-term goal to get the flags down (light damage) & put up reproductions (the service flag is already a reproduction)
Breakfast Room
Return portraits to original placements
John Singer Sargents in Oak sitting room -- in 1920s were here!
Photos show which FRAMES were original to paintings -- even Commodore was swapped
George was influenced in art by his father, William Henry Vanderbilt -- a different experience growing up than his siblings had because WHV was amassing historical narrative paintings
George was interested in contemporary art... contemporary in that time was Renoir, Monet, Manet, Whistler
Also prints of 15th century Renaissance masters
Renoirs were recently moved back to the breakfast room
Renoir, from Limoges France, started in porcelain painting -- then used the money from porcelain to go to L'Ecole des Beaux Arts. Get up close and see the brushwork! (& if there's a Renoir exhibit, go!)
Original wall coverings - core double pressed leather
What's on the other side of the door?
Butler's pantry -- access for back of house duties
Butler would typically stand just inside or just outside the door to keep an eye on things
Hand cut velvet fabric on chairs.
Redone ~1991
Imagine terrycloth towel loops. Then imagine each loop was cut by hand.
To weave 1yd of fabric takes 2 1/2 weeks
Book loops on mantle (my pic here) - are they connected to the paper wigs?
Different department, but goal was to see books as decor in keeping with the Designed for Drama (my term: Fiction to Cinema) exhibit.
Salon
Desk was previously in 2nd floor sitting room
Marquetry - inlay work - puzzle pieces of wood, cut and inlaid. Also layers of brass and pewter.
GWV's prize possession -- how do we know?
Inside drawer is label "Alphonse de Lamartine", who among other things ran for president of France. Was of the upper class but fighting for the people. Napoleon III beat him out and offered him a cabinet post; de Lamartine declined because he wanted still to fight for the people.
Albrecht Dürer prints
Look at the level of line work -- remember, these are WOODCUT prints
All, including writing, is done in reverse
Up to this point, prints were of religious settings and rather stiff
Look at range of tones
Dürer never saw a rhino -- took description from a friend who had seen one
Rhinoceros were almost like mythical creatures, but ones that actually existed
The actual rhino pictured here (previously seen by Dürer's friend) was being gifted to the pope, but in transport was shipwrecked... the rhino drowned.
Tapestry Gallery
George Singer Sargent - both American and British, kind of -- born in Europe to American parents with strong Philly & Connecticut connections
Studied Rembrandt, VanDyke, and Velasquez.
Portraits commissioned 1890
Very modern, out of Spanish portraiture - dark backgrounds, poses, props
GWV has book in hand and is above the door to the library -- has always hung there.
Also Maria Louisa (GWV's mother)
Edith painted by Giovanni Boldini, who was known for painting the "It" girls
Drama, fashion, and movement
All his portraits were beautiful, whether or not the subjects were
Show who the person is
Library Den
Previously held writing tables
Bookshelves were not in here
In George's day, different mantle -- perhaps the music room mantle was here?
In 1914, George had a financial hardship and sold many Rembrandts and Dürers to the Morgan (NYC museum)
Ceiling grand vault, similar to French chapels
Walls GILDED BURLAP
Darren (chief curator) is working on a lighting project for Sargents of Hunt and Olmstead
2nd floor Living Room was both a gathering place (prior to going down to dinner, for example) and a gallery
The feature portraits had moved because with the Louis XVI room finished, they wanted everyone to see the room and it needed a way out, but that cost the place for two of the favorite paintings in the house.
The portraits were painted in Biltmore -- would love to know which room.
Because of Sargent's painting style, up close they are very abstract; have to move back for the paintings to come together
Both subjects were very old at time of painting
Hunt's [family member] said, "I can hardly look at the portrait because it exposes how sick he really was."
Olmstead was so ill he sat for the face in the portrait, but for the body, Olmstead Jr (who was working here) put on his dad's clothes and stood for him.
Andrew Zorn "The Waltz"
Swedish artist
known for capturing the feeling of the moment
newly lit, but may yet change the lighting
Sitting Room (between George's and Edith's bedroom)
Mrs Bacon portrait - frame related correspondence with Sargent - he made custom frames and sometimes cut down frames.
In this case, antique frame was cut down, but then was still too big, and the framemaker didn't gild all the sections, so correspondence re portrait is finished but waiting on frame.
Mrs Bacon was a cousin of GWV, a trained musician, and loved Spanish music
Sargent had a retrospective of his work done while he was alive (very rare)
Requested one particular painting for it, the portrait of Mrs Benjamin Kissam (GWV's mom's SIL), even though it was widely panned at its release as "ugly" and as though she were "going to do laundry".
Any questions?
Was Cornelia lonely, being an only child all the way out here?
Cornelia played with the estate kids.
And she had a playground with seesaws out by Diana
She was part of the first women's polo team
Active-Sporty-Tied to the estate
At her wedding some of the gifts the estate workers gave her were fishing gear such as a creel, and a fishing outfit and boots
THANKS, Leslie!
And thanks to Jamine for all her work in putting together FOBH day activites and coordinating with Biltmore to give us such amazing access.
And thanks to all our wonderful admins, Jamine, Melanie, Tor, and Christopher!
Sunday, May 21, 2017
Biltmore Landscape Architecture Tour
My photos from the day are here.
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Jane Giudici, guide
(Apologies -- these are rather scribble-scrabble notes, but I was writing as fast as I could! And I’m more than willing to share what info I jotted down, just recognize their limitations.)
Olmstead had the vision to see what would be down the road
Monday, March 27, 2017
Oceans
MIL: Thank you for taking me to see the ocean. It's the best birthday present anyone's ever gotten me.
me: Oh good; I'm glad you came!
(sotto voce)
Good, now we don't have to make a cake.
We absolutely will make a cake. But I am feeling so heartwarmed!!
Point of interest: Rehoboth yesterday was 42F air temp. Today in Kitty Hawk it is 69F at 9a and water temp 49F. OBX>Delmarva.
Onion rings, kinda
(Remember the Miss America contestant who once said she was confused; was chicken of the sea really chicken or tuna fish?)
After seeing the ocean for the first time in her life (Rehoboth might have been a little more inviting were it not 42F, foggy, & crazy windy), with a little prodding, Betty tried calamari today for the first time.
She asked what it was.
I said it was the onion rings of the sea.
She liked it and had some more.